Relational Dynamics in Transition

Transition is hard. One reason why transitions are hard is because of our relationships. We become disoriented and disconnected with others, with God, and even with ourselves. We get knocked down in some transitions that penetrates deeply to our core identity causing us to doubt and question, who am I? It even causes us to wonder and question, where do I belong?

How often do we become disconnected to ourselves, to others, and to God when in transition when what we really need and want is connection?

I am in the midst of reading, The Expectation Gap by Steve Cuss which some of the concepts he writes about I believe can be magnified and illuminated when in a season of transition. Steve talks about four core relational dynamics, 1) assumptions, 2) reactivity, 3) stuck patterns, and 4) attempted solutions and how these dynamics can block our connection to self, to others, and to God.

In the following weeks, we’ll be diving deeper into these four relational dynamics to see how they may contribute and impact our transition experience.

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