Planner or Spontaneous

Transition can cause us to feel disoriented, like we are walking in fog because of the uncertainties and the unknowns we encounter. We cannot see clearly to the other side and sometimes it’s even hard to see the next step. It can disrupt our routines and cause those who both plan and are spontaneous to become unraveled at the seams.

A spontaneous person is one who does not make plans or at least gives lots of room to be able to decide in the moment because they do not want to miss out on anything so have tendencies to be more impulsive in making decisions. It may seem like those who love and enjoy spontaneity have an easier time in transition because they like surprises, they are more carefree and risk takers, and yet, they too, can become more unsure and wobblier themselves. The anchors of certainty that once tethered them to be more spontaneous have come untethered in transition.

A planner is one who makes plans and schedules out their day, week, month, and year. They like to know what is coming up and not be taken by surprise. This gives them a sense of control over what is expected of them, and the rules to navigate their situation or circumstance. Transition can really rock a planners’ world as their anchors of control – routines, rules, and expectations go hurling out the door.

What would it look like to make space for both planning and spontaneity while in transition?

I believe it is a journey for each person in how to hold the tension between planning and spontaneity, especially if we are on either extreme of the continuum. If so, it may take time to learn to move closer to middle ground and how to hold a healthy tension between the two. You may need to be okay with making plans day by day or week by week and holding those plans loosely to give space for opportunities of spontaneity. You may need to identify what is your tipping point of spontaneity. It may simply be asking, “What is the next right thing?” Being anchored to God who is our constant known, and having both plans and spontaneity, helps us to navigate life’s transitions in a more wholesome way.

I would love to talk with you, if you desire to learn how to hold the tension between planning and spontaneity. Take your next step and Let's Chat.

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