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Boundaries: Understanding Limitations and Capacities

 


Dictionary.com defines a boundary as “a line or limit where one thing ends and another begins.”

 

In life and transitions, boundaries help us understand where we end and where another begins. They give shape to our identity, our relationships, and the ways we show up in the world.

 

One way to explore your boundaries is by understanding your limitations—what is within your ability and what is not. Begin by identifying your skillsets, gifts, talents, and education. Reflect on how far you are able to use these strengths in your current role or situation before you reach a point where you can no longer move forward effectively.

 

As a Life Transitions Coach, I regularly check in with my own limitations—recognizing where my expertise ends and when it’s time to consult or refer clients to others who specialize in areas beyond my scope. This awareness not only keeps me grounded in integrity but also ensures that those I serve receive the best possible support.

 

Boundaries are also about knowing your capacity, especially in the season of life you’re in right now. Think about the different types of capacity you carry—relational, energetic, time, resource-based, emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual.

 

Imagine each one as a tank of gas.
Where does the gauge read for each capacity? Full? Half-full? Nearly empty?

 

When we honor our capacities, we acknowledge our humanity. We create room for rest, renewal, and healthy connection—essentials for navigating life’s many transitions with grace and resilience.

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