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Friendships in Transition

 


Friendships matter. They are one of the greatest sources of wholeness and well-being in our lives. The people we walk alongside can become some of our most profound teachers—showing us things about ourselves, about love, and about God.

 

But when we enter seasons of transition, our relational and emotional capacity often shifts. We may not be able to engage with friends in the same way we once did. That doesn’t mean friendship becomes less important—it means we may need a fresh perspective.

 

One helpful practice is to map out our friendships in circles. I call this the Jesus Friendship Model. When we look at Jesus’ relationships, we see four layers:

  1. His three closest disciples
  2. His circle of 12
  3. The wider group of 72
  4. The larger crowds

 

As you reflect on your own relationships, notice which ones feel mutual and life-giving and which ones leave you drained because they are mostly one-sided.

 

In times of transition, it’s wise to focus on your inner circles—the few close friends who bring strength and support. Be intentional with these relationships. Reach out. Ask for help. Let them walk with you.


At the same time, stay open to the surprising ways God might provide encouragement. Sometimes a friend from an outer circle—or even a new friend—can become a life-giving presence in just the season you need it most.

Who are those people for you right now? Take a moment to thank them, reach out, and let them walk with you in this season. 

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