Hurdle #6 Grief & Loss

Wherever there is change, there is loss, and loss takes you through the journey of grief. Most of us want to resist this journey of grief because it is painful, hard, and long “Loss is not the enemy, not facing its existence is…” – H. Norman Wright.

Losses reveal our heart of how well we love, our core values, and belief systems that defines us. Each loss has impacted our lives in one way, shape, form, or another which is why it is important to pause and reflect and grieve our losses.

Take time to acknowledge and name the losses by writing them down. Name the emotions felt with each loss. How has this loss impacted your thoughts and actions in moving forward? Find a friend, pastor, counselor who is a safe and healthy presence to talk about how your losses have impacted you.

The journey of grief is a gift and as you walk through it gives you permission to find a new place to live from. Where are you in the journey of grief?

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