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Friendships and the Backpack We Carry

 


When hiking through the mountains, I always carry a backpack. Inside are the essentials for the journey—things I know I’ll need and, at times, a few items I’ve picked up along the way. Friendships and relationships are much the same. Each of us carries a kind of “heart-pack,” filled with experiences, lessons, and people we’ve gathered on our journey.

 

But like any backpack, what we carry can get heavy. Some things are precious and worth holding onto. Others only weigh us down. Every so often, it helps to pause, open up that heart-pack, and sort through what’s inside.

 

Here are four categories that can help when unpacking your relationships:

  1. Throw Away or Release – Some friendships or habits no longer serve us. Maybe they’ve become unhealthy, or maybe they were meant only for a season. Letting go doesn’t mean those relationships weren’t meaningful—it just means you’re choosing not to carry what has become a burden.
  2. Treasures or Memories – These are the friendships that bring joy and life. Memories of laughter, conversations that shaped you, and the people who have stood beside you in different seasons. Hold these close—they are gems in your pack.
  3. Refill or Replace – Just like water bottles or supplies, some relationships need refreshing. Maybe it’s time to reach out to a friend you’ve lost touch with, or maybe it’s time to make space for new connections that better fit who you are becoming.
  4. Repack – After sorting, intentionally repack your heart-pack with what matters most: the relationships that give life, the lessons that strengthen you, and the support you’ll need for the road ahead.

 

Friendships change as life changes. If we never stop to sort through our heart-pack, the weight becomes too much to carry, and even our treasures can get buried beneath the clutter. Every once in a while, take time to reflect: Which friendships are you carrying? Which ones bring you joy? Which ones do you need to release or refresh?


Your backpack—your heart-pack—was never meant to be stuffed full and dragging behind you. It’s meant to carry the relationships and lessons that keep you moving forward on the journey.

What's in your backpack?

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