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Margin Creates the Pause Where Your Personhood Lives

 


So many of us live in reaction mode.
Requests come in. Expectations rise.
And before we even notice, we’ve responded—without breathing, without checking in.

When that happens, our voice – being seen and heard – gets quieter and loss.
Our power – choice, options, and influence – shrinks.
Our relationships – meant to be mutual and connected – quietly becomes driven by obligation instead of presence.

Margin creates the pause.

And in that pause, your personhood is restored.

The pause is where you get to ask:

·      What needs to be seen and heard in me right now?

·      What choice do I actually have here?

·      What options are available to me if I don’t rush?

·      How will this decision affect my ability to stay present and connected in my relationships?

Taking time to decide isn’t avoidance selfish or slow.
It’s an act of agency.

It’s choosing to respond from your voice, not pressure.
From your power, not fear.
From relationship, not overextension.

You’re allowed to take time to decide.
That’s what margin sounds like.

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